Do you need a wedding register? Modern day wedding etiquette

January 15, 2016
Reception Marquee Hire Sydney

Did you know that you don’t actually have to have a wedding register? Despite what your mother or mother-in-law to-be may say, a gift registry is no longer an absolute requirement for the modern day wedding.

Many couples live together before tying the knot these days, often making a wedding register – traditionally used to kit out the couple’s new home – redundant.


Before we get too carried away from the idea however, there are a few reasons why you should consider having a register:


  • It makes it easy on your guests – they’re going to get you a gift either way, and a register makes it easy to know what to get
  • It makes it easy on you – if you make a list of things you might actually like, chances are you’ll end up with more things you like than things you don’t like or need


If you do want to have a register but don’t necessarily need a whole lot of things think of it as an opportunity to upgrade some items and to get some more useful and fun things.

Clever wishing well items include:

  • Board games
  • A tent or camping gear
  • Travel guidebooks
  • Cookbooks
  • A picnic blanket or set

If this doesn’t suit your style, luckily there is a simple, modern alternative: the wishing well.

If you’d prefer to have a wishing well, asking your guests for money instead of gifts, here are a couple of tips to make it a success and not step on any toes.


  • Tell your guests how you will use the money – this gives them an incentive if you’re saving for a house or honeymoon together for example
  • Explain it in the card – tell your guests your wishes in a sweet way, perhaps with a poem


Hot Tip! If you really don’t need or want anything, why not pay it forward by registering with a charity and asking your guests to donate on your behalf.