For many couples the hardest part of planning a wedding is, not surprisingly, the guest list.
You might have a short list of your closest friends to celebrate with and not many more. But chances are, your parents, new in-laws and maybe even extended family have a few more to add to the list. Luckily, there is a fairly simple way to get a handle on your guest list by prioritising.
Here’s how to do it:
Hot Tip! It can be difficult deciding who you should and shouldn’t invite. People who you only see through other friends are not your friends – and don’t need an invite. If you’re unsure about some friends who you see on a regular or semi-regular basis, consider – would it be awkward if we didn’t invite them? – if the answer is yes, it’s probably best to include them on your list.
Some other things to consider when planning your guest list:
- How many people does your desired venue accommodate? This will likely dictate numbers
- What will the seating arrangements be? (Spacing, table shape and size)
- Will you include the ‘and guest’ with your single friend invitations? A good rule to go by if you’re unsure is “no ring, no bring” or similar
- Will you invite friends’ children?
- If you’re planning on inviting an ex, remember your fiancee has absolute power to veto the invite
- Who will be paying for the wedding? If your parents are helping foot the bill, they should have at least a little say in some invites
- Any guests you’re unsure of, consider what kind of guest they will be – if they’re good at sparking conversation with people they don’t know, they’ll likely be excellent for getting other guests to mingle
- Again for guests you’re unsure of, ask yourself ‘Will I likely still be friends with this person in 5 years time?’
Cutting numbers for a wedding guest list can be difficult, and seem harsh. But it’s important to remember that this is your day, not your old neighbours or ex-best friends.
Nathalie is the chief wedding coordinator and head of marketing at Pillingers. With over ten years experience, she has now built a team of dedicated wedding and events specialists to style and implement events from small parties to large corporate events and festivals.