How to hit the sweet spot with your wedding guest list

October 15, 2015

For many couples the hardest part of planning a wedding is, not surprisingly, the guest list.


You might have a short list of your closest friends to celebrate with and not many more. But chances are, your parents, new in-laws and maybe even extended family have a few more to add to the list. Luckily, there is a fairly simple way to get a handle on your guest list by prioritising.

Here’s how to do it:

6 step process to cutting down your wedding guest list

 

Hot Tip! It can be difficult deciding who you should and shouldn’t invite. People who you only see through other friends are not your friends – and don’t need an invite. If you’re unsure about some friends who you see on a regular or semi-regular basis, consider – would it be awkward if we didn’t invite them? – if the answer is yes, it’s probably best to include them on your list.

 

Some other things to consider when planning your guest list:

 

  • How many people does your desired venue accommodate? This will likely dictate numbers
  • What will the seating arrangements be? (Spacing, table shape and size)
  • Will you include the ‘and guest’ with your single friend invitations? A good rule to go by if you’re unsure is “no ring, no bring” or similar
  • Will you invite friends’ children?
  • If you’re planning on inviting an ex, remember your fiancee has absolute power to veto the invite
  • Who will be paying for the wedding? If your parents are helping foot the bill, they should have at least a little say in some invites
  • Any guests you’re unsure of, consider what kind of guest they will be – if they’re good at sparking conversation with people they don’t know, they’ll likely be excellent for getting other guests to mingle
  • Again for guests you’re unsure of, ask yourself ‘Will I likely still be friends with this person in 5 years time?’

 

Cutting numbers for a wedding guest list can be difficult, and seem harsh. But it’s important to remember that this is your day, not your old neighbours or ex-best friends.

 

Nathalie is the chief wedding coordinator and head of marketing at Pillingers. With over ten years experience, she has now built a team of dedicated wedding and events specialists to style and implement events from small parties to large corporate events and festivals.